EP 107 | IT'S TIME TO STOP COMPLAINING

I deeply believe in the medicine of softness. Gentleness. Loving yourself. Radical acceptance. Speaking sweet words to your tender heart. Minimum effective dose. A path lined with flowers and compassion and forgiveness.

I don’t believe you need to get blasted and dragged through hell and back to heal. In fact, healing can be and should be joyful. Celebratory. It can be love filled and fun and funny and weird and messy and everything in between. We can laugh at our darkness. We keep going back in to heal it more with a song in our hearts.

It is a privilege to be awake and choosing to heal together. Even the hard and sticky parts. Even the darkest shame and the heaviest grief. The loss. The sorrow.

We have to. There is no going back.

AND…

My job as a coach and guide is to know when the time for descent and digging and excavation has run its course. We are not meant to be sorting through every moment of life trying to mentally understand what happened and why. We are not here to scavenge the past for answers forever. The mental space is often not that useful when it comes to moving out of old habits and limiting beliefs.

You are not your trauma. You are not your bad choices. You are not your past. You are not your fear. You are not a victim. You are not your history. You are not your weaknesses. You are so much more than anything that has ever happened to you.

I learned how to be a good coach from the medicine. I work with my clients much like the medicine of San Pedro. He is gentle, but powerful. He will guide you into everything that is not serving you and invite you to feel it all. He will drop you steadfastly into your heart and show you your own magnificent power. And then he will ask you to own it. He will demand your sovereignty. He will fill you will love and make it so big that you have no choice but to accept that you are love incarnate.

He will require you to stop pretending you are small and weak and powerless. He will invite you to evolve and expand. He will make you laugh at yourself. He will teach you to be soft with a strong heart.

Softness is the foundation of heart alchemy. But don’t mistake being sweet and kind to yourself for flopping around in a pile of trash and wondering why you don’t feel better. Softness and ease are a choice. And you can’t continuously choose pessimism, negativity, inaction, and despair and feel good.

Some of you may not be ready to hear it like this. And that’s ok. You don’t have to agree with this perspective when you’re not ready. Trust your heart and your timing. If this feels too harsh, leave it for now.

But for those of you who are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, listen up.

Sometimes you need to get a little spicy with yourself. Because the beauty way is worth fighting for. It’s worth everything. The privilege of having it be soft and gentle is a gift that deserves our unending gratitude. To be here, breathing air, existing, living in these bodies, our hearts beating, blood pumping, having ideas, creating, loving… this is LIFE. We are here, now.

And we are complaining. Incessantly venting. Rehashing and giving attention to everything that’s going wrong. That hurts. The state of the world. The doom that is going to swallow us all.

To that I say with love… CUT THAT SHIT OUT.

You have been traumatized. Victimized. Born into a world where late-stage capitalism is wreaking havoc on the economy and the planet. Where there are wars and death and carnage and violence and a lot of people walking around without consciousness.

Yep. We are here. With our pain. Our suffering. Our poor life choices. Our regrets. We are here with our illnesses and our lack and our scarcity.

And we will NOT STOP TALKING ABOUT HOW SUCKY IT ALL IS.

Sweet Family, we really don’t have time for all you glorious, love filled healers and helpers to be wallowing in your own stuff anymore. Sorry, but we have work to do.

My teacher used to say “Earth is a construction planet. Not a vacation planet.” We came here to do the work of evolution. Of completely rewiring the entire system and replacing all the outdated, traumatic ways of being with new and improved pathways of understanding that are beneficial to all of life.

You cannot solve a problem from inside the problem. So many people approach spiritual healing and medicine work like some magic mystical secret that’s going to save your life after a journey or two.

If you want the medicine to work, you have to work with it. Beyond it. You have to be willing to change. Over and over. Change as a daily practice. Personal responsibility as a mantra. Owning your shit as a way of life. Claiming your power as your birthright. Heart magic as your own personal elixir.

The fire of the Sun in Leo is in me this season, and I am here to throw everything in there that is standing in the way of my own pleasure, expansion, and exaltation.

Complaining is an energy vampire that steals your power and uses it to perpetuate the current circumstances and experience you are already creating. (The one you don’t like…) It makes you feel more unhappy, damages your relationships, creates illness, and prevents you from having deep connection with others.

There’s no room for it when you’re busy being your most awesome, bad ass, beautiful self. Complaining is keeping you small and stuck. And it doesn’t have to be present in your life anymore.

If you want to change things, you have to start in your own vibration and your own heart. Be willing to get spicy and make a simple change in your behavior that can radically alter your trajectory. In today’s episode, learn how to stop letting the bad habit of complaining steal your joy and start speaking magic into your life instead.

Love,
Sinclair