EP 144 PERFECTIONISM AND CALLING IN YOUR JEWELER ERA

Calling All Perfectionists… It’s time to call in your jeweler era.

There will come a time in your medicine work where you start getting into the root causes of your issues. This is when you begin to see the bigger picture behind your thoughts, behaviors, and habits. Tracing what’s present in your life (in your mental, emotional, and physical bodies) back to the original source. This is pattern recognition.

This is when you make the switch to finding peace instead of healing symptoms and self-sabotage. You ask why enough times, and suddenly you see it all from the beginning. Plant medicine is such an incredible ally in this excavation process. It helps us go deeper over time.

Usually these root causes develop in our youth, as a way our systems try to protect themselves from rejection, judgment, failure, or abandonment. We become little overachieving, people pleasing, self-abandoning, boundary-less, addicted, performing perfectionists because that’s how we micromanage our worlds so we can feel in control. Like we belong. Because if we just do everything RIGHT nothing bad will happen. It’s how we learned to receive the love we needed. It’s a diabolical mastermind supervillain plan to prevent pain and suffering that causes us immense pain and suffering. (OMG why are we like this?!?! 😈)

What this looks like in adulthood is a lot of nervous system activation, anxiety, and hypervigilance. Enter your friends depression (freeze state), chronic illness, chronic pain, low self-esteem, codependency, and impossibly high standards that leave you with a mistaken identity of being a broken person who is always going to struggle.

Once you find the spiritual path, it feels like an answer to your prayers, but can also quickly turn into another way to not allow yourself to be good enough or healed enough. That there’s something OUT THERE, or inside you that if you could just find it, THEN you would feel better.

We’ve been calling this endless search being a coal miner. It’s the forgetting why you came down into the mine in the first place. Always seeking, looking for the next thing to solve. We identify so much with this deep unworthiness and not enoughness that we just move into the mine permanently.

And I’m here to tell you, your “healing journey” is not why you are here, that is not your soul mission, and it’s not necessary to keep digging.

This week on the show, we’ll talk about how to shift your path when you realize you’ve inadvertently become a perfectionist coal miner searching for problems to solve. Step into your jeweler era… a glorious celebration of appreciating all the discoveries you’ve made, polishing your inner gems, and enjoying the shit out of your imperfect yet flawless life. There’s a pile of precious stones on the surface of your life waiting for you to enjoy and create with them!

Love, 

Sinclair