EP 111 | RADICAL ACCEPTANCE WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING

The path to freedom starts with radical acceptance.

So much of the stuckness and confusion we experience on the path of awakening is because we refuse to accept what is.

It’s really that simple.

Are you stuck? Looking backward at the past and wishing things were different? Do you feel an attachment to a story or belief that you know deep down isn’t serving you? Are you in conflict with yourself? With someone you love? Why? What is the thing that’s true that you can’t swallow?

What are you not admitting?

That is the work of integration. You must begin there. Start where you are. You must be willing to look all the way in. You must be willing to lay down the sword and stick your fingers deep into the reality of your life and hold it in your hands and not look away.

And from there, from that place of truth and willingness, that is the place where you can meet radical acceptance.

Radical acceptance is…

Owning your shit and your power
Taking responsibility
Loving the parts of you that you don’t like Shadow work
Saying yes to all of it
Knowing that whatever arises is here to teach and grow you
Looking through the lens of compassion and softness
Letting go
Allowing
Getting to work
No more excuses
Laying down your sword

In ceremony last weekend, one of our brothers shared his deep anger and grief around a rupture with his sister. We explored the anger and opened it a bit to see what was at the source. Inside the anger, underneath it, around it, was deep hurt. Betrayal. Grief. And a true conclusion that he would not be able to understand why. Maybe not ever.

He said a prayer for compassion.
He asked grandfather fire, “Let me accept without understanding.”

Holding on to anger, self-righteousness, rage, or the egoic victimhood that we use to protect ourselves when we are hurt and feel betrayed creates suffering.

Taking things personally creates suffering. Because it’s never about you. It’s about them.

In Buddhism this can be understood through the parable of the arrows. The first arrow is the original hurt. The second arrow is the one we stab into ourselves through our reaction. The second arrow is the one that does the most damage.

How many times have you made a situation way worse because you freaked out, overanalyzed, vented, hyperbolized, ruminated, snapped when you were triggered or angry, and generally lost your shit?

Yeah, same.

Radical acceptance without understanding is an invitation to let go. To choose another story. To choose to be in peace, even when there is a storm raging outside of you.

Choosing peace, compassion, and love, especially when it’s not easy – this is the path of evolution. This is what it means to vibrate in your heart. This is the exalted path of the spirit warrior. The love warrior. The warrior for beauty and kindness.

I don’t know about you, but that’s the only kind of warrior I want to be.

Let’s stop fighting for our suffering. Let’s stop praying for our limitations and wounding to be protected. Let’s HEAL THAT SHIT.

You can let those wounds close up. You can experience trauma and pain and it doesn’t have to be your identity. You can get over it. Even if the other person doesn’t.

You can be disliked by some people. You won’t die from it.

You can be abandoned by folks that don’t get you or see you and because of that, you will find your true tribe. Your soul family. And they will see you all the way.

You can be in radical acceptance without understanding. Without needing to be right. Without needing a resolution or closure or an apology.

You can forgive without being forgiven.

You can choose to feel something else if you want to. You can change your beliefs. Your values. You can change your mind. You can heal your body. Your vibration can create health, wellness, and vitality instead of illness.

Radical acceptance is the tool. It’s the way. And you can do it right now.

In this week’s podcast episode I’m sharing about radical acceptance, how to do it, and why you really want to be free from needing it to work out some specific way. Come let go of your need for control. Let go of possible outcomes. Accept and be free.

Love,
Sinclair